Rick Wagner aka Rick Sande

Born November 26, 1961 in Milford, CT and raised in Southern Connecticut.

Married in 1979 to Gigi (Georgette) Pelham in Milford, Connecticut and divorced her in 1980 after catching her having sex with my so-called friend named Scott thinking I was off at my computer night-school.

Met my first long-term male lover,Kenneth Flyte and together we spent 9 1/2 years together in our relationship.

Ken and his other half Phil work for AIDS Project Hartford. Even though I also had female partners in my live, Ken was my first “true love” and will be my best friend for the rest of my life.

While Ken and I were together I worked on mainframe computers for Perkin-Elmer where I made blueprints for the Hubble Space Telescope, and later for Southern Connecticut Gas Co. where I processed, billed, and printed out 14,000 customer invoices each night unsupervised.

Moved to Southern California for three years in 1987 worked as an IT manager for AVON Cosmetics, AST RESEARCH, and mainframe peripheral manufacturer HYDRA SYSTEMS INC. where I did data communication network management technical support.

Moved back to CT broke up with Ken after a year back but stayed good friends and met Lenny Yanavich. Bought a house together in Branford, CT and helped him establish one of the largest hair and skin salons in New Haven, CT called Rimage' but the relationship only lasted 6 years because of our differences and his alcoholism.

Relocated to Dallas, TX in December 1995 and established an open relationship with life partner and husband Wynn Wagner. I assumed the identity of Rick Wagner after my sexually abusive step-father Richard L. Sande died from a cocaine overdose heart attack and I didn' t want to keep the name Rick Sande anymore.

Responsible for creating one of the oldest and largest gay bulletin board systems in the United States known under such identities as:

• RisQue' BBS (still operating on the Internet)
• Men's American Coastal Hideout (M.A.C.H.O)
• Lifestyles BBS
• Man's Country of Dallas
• UncommonRealm.Com

Formed DIVANET DATA SERVICES in 1997 and provided upscale internet design and hosting services for large and small companies which lasting for over 10 years. With escalating costs of operation and lowering/competitive rates from other companies, I made the decision to close it all down.

Founder of the Texas BikerPigs - a motorcycle club for gay men.
Founder of the OaklawnM4M Social Group for Gay Men with stuff to do besides just hang out at the bars.

Extensive 23+ year career in IBM mainframes, Micro and all aspects of network and hardware design.

Currently work from my home as Senior Product Designer for my husband’s internet company called MysticWays at www.MysticWays.com working with essential oils, herbal compounds, incense, and various other spiritual tools.

A soft, sensitive, and attractive pussycat with a fierce exterior that often intimidates and/or frightens those who don't know him. Extremely jaded, very out, and very well-adjusted to gay life.

RELIGION:
• Baptism at Birth: Roman Catholic
• CURRENT FAITH: "Old Catholic / Pagan” (Wicca, Egyptian, Vodun)

 Avid collector of music, and a walking encyclopedia of songs and band titles
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MUSIC FAVORITES:
• Pat Benetar - Hell is for Children
• Pink - (anything she records)
• Cirque Du Soleil - Mystere, KA, Quidam
• Jimmy Somerville - (all)
• Dead Or Alive - (all)
• Bronski Beat - (all)
• eMOTIVe - (all)
• Roxette - (all)
• Stevie Nicks - (all)
• George Winston - (Linus & Lucy CD)

QUOTES:
• "There's nothing I can't fix."
• "Things always happen for a reason be it good or bad."
• "I wasn't put on this earth just to take up space."
• "Don't mess with my 'chosen family' and those that I love."
• "Nobody shatters the commandments better than I can!"